Jane Oineza admits losing herself in past heartbreak

Jane Oineza

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MANILA, Philippines — There’s nothing more tragic than to lose oneself while in a relationship. The cast of the recently concluded digital series “Si Sol at Si Luna” shared their biggest heartbreaks as they reflected on the lessons imparted by their online show.

For Jane Oineza, who gave life to the lead female character Luna who carried a heavy emotional baggage, her biggest heartbreak was losing herself in love.

“I forgot about myself, and I couldn’t prioritize my needs,” she admitted.

“I tried to do everything for that person — meet his expectations, give in to compromises. I realized that I was changing because of what he was asking from me. My biggest heartbreak, then, was letting that happen,” she added.

Joao Constancia, the kind-hearted team leader Ben in the series, related that his most painful breakup came after years of being with someone.

“She wanted to break up with me after dating for a couple of years,” he recalled. “When I realized that she was really serious about breaking up and stopped seeing me after, that was when the pain cut deepest,” he said.

In hindsight, Joao now understands that the lesson was clear: “I needed to love myself more before loving anyone else.”

For Karina Bautista, the series’ smart and strong-willed Ara, her biggest heartbreak came from family.

“Realizing that we were broken, and then having both my parents move abroad, was really hard for me as a child,” she revealed. “I knew they did it to earn for us, but I still longed for their presence and the feeling of having a complete support system.”

Karina shared that the hardest moment was when she finally understood that everyone is given a different set of cards in life.

“I knew I was still blessed, but that didn’t make the pain any lighter,” she said.

But she learned not to blame anyone, choosing instead to work hard and pray. “It taught me that love comes in many forms. Choosing to love is harder than just feeling it… being able to feel and give love is truly special.”

Much like Luna, Marnie Lapus faced a heartbreaking end to a relationship that struggled against an age gap. “[My biggest heartbreak] would probably be ’yung pakikipaghiwalay ko sa asawa ko,” she said, revealing that she was four years older than her then-partner.

Marnie remembered how the imbalance in maturity and priorities took its toll on their marriage. “It’s like in the story of this series, I’m Luna, she’s Sol. He didn’t really enjoy, technically, his 20s. He had to be a husband and a dad.”

But the most painful moment, she recalled, was telling him it was over. “It took me two years, crying every day, trying to save our marriage. The hardest part was telling my husband that I was tired.”

Still, the journey brought Marnie precious lessons. “To be honest, I have no regrets, kasi okay kami ngayon. We worked things out kasi we eventually gained maturity. The breakup taught me to stand my ground and say, ‘This is not the kind of mom I want to be.’”

Today, she has found peace in knowing that she can also choose to prioritize herself.

Looking back at their experiences, the cast agreed that heartbreaks, though painful, are necessary chapters of life.

“Sometimes heartbreak is meant to happen because it helps us to become better versions of ourselves and that letting go is necessary to moving forward,” Joao said.

“When you get hurt, the best thing you can do is use it, and make it a learning moment for you. The important thing is that you learn and you won’t let that happen to you again,” Jane added.

She leaves an important reminder about love, as the series comes to a close. “It’s good to love and it’s good to pour out love, but we must not forget our own. How can we love someone else if we have let ourselves go? The person we love should know who we are — strengths, weaknesses, mistakes, everything that makes us who we are. Love is trying to accept each other and grow together.”